It’s always interesting to listen to discussions around whether or not the different environments that we ride in are supportive or not. I’m thinking competitive environments specifically, but the sentiment also extends to clinics and barns.
There’s no doubt, unfortunately, that not everyone will have your best interests at heart.
There’s no doubt that not everyone, sadly, is going to be kind and supportive.
That’s a fact of life generally.
But it’s all too easy to map in a past experience and use it as the benchmark to colour all future expectations and evaluations.
So, whilst it’s true that not everyone will have your best interests at heart, there still remains a lot of people out there who will.
And while not everyone is going to be kind and supportive, it doesn’t mean that there aren’t people that are, immensely so.
We have to make sure that what we are contributing is supportive of the outcomes and experiences we ourselves are seeking.
Instead of looking out and thinking “how are they going to make it better for me?” we need to flip it around and think about how we are contributing on an individual level to what it is that we want to experience; to see ourselves as the causative agents.
Many of us complain about a lack of inclusivity and yet don’t practice being inclusive.
Many of us complain about gossip and yet see it as a harmless bit of fun when we do it ourselves.
For as long as we are waiting for someone else to make it better, we disempower ourselves to act as the creative force. We have to identify what it is we want to create and make movements towards that, rather than identifying what we don’t like and waiting for something or someone else to change.