Toot Toot! Look out! It’s the Don’t Believe Everything You Think Train coming through reminding you to well…. not believe everything you think.
There’s nothing that can trigger our deepest insecurities and limiting beliefs than comparing ourselves to other people, or other horse and rider combinations. It’s like there we are, merrily minding our own business when CLUNK! We trip over a massive log placed directly in our path by the YoureNotGoodEnough Fairy and fall flat on our faces.
And while we are busy trying to get the dirt out of our left eyeball and gather up our reins, WHACK. We take another great copping blow by the her evil sister, Miss YoureOuttaYourLeague.
Aside from maybe having a quiet swear to yourself and grabbing a bar of 85% dark lindt chocolate (so good just FYI), it may also comfort you to realise that comparisonitis is something that is familiar to all of us at one point or another. In part it comes out of operating from a fixed mindset, but it also comes from a place of scarcity- of believing that someone having something that you have means that there won’t be enough for you also. And as I mentioned earlier, if there’s any way to really bring to the surface those limiting mindsets we have about ourselves, is to start to think about where we should be, where we aren’t, or how we would love to be in the same place as that person over there doing that thing that we want to do.
This post though is not about limiting beliefs, or fixed mindsets or even dealing with the Itty Bitty Shitty Committee. It’s me grabbing my megaphone (do they still make those?) and yelling in your eardrum…
You. Are. Enough.
You don’t need to compare yourself to anyone else because #1 it won’t get you closer to what you want anyway and #2 you are completely unique.
That brand of you that’s floating around inside you? Nobody else can ever have that.
The combination of you and your horse? There is not another horse and rider combination out there the same. Not one. Not one in the whole. freaking. world.
In your face whateveryournameis Fairy.
Your riding journey has very little to do with what others are doing and where it is that they’re heading, and it has everything to do with what you are doing and where you are heading. So don’t get caught up in other people’s stories and forget to write your own.
So as you were. Back to being fabulous puhlease.
Ain’t nobody got time for anything else.